Are you grieving? Probably.
It's hard to put emotions into words sometimes. They jumble together and pointing just one of them out to identify can be difficult. I know it is for me. After Thomas's diagnosis there were so many feelings I don't think I could name them all or even know what half of them were. It was hard to process. Even after he was born, had multiple surgeries, was home and progressing well, I still felt something. What was it? I didn't know until another parent described it as grieving the loss of a child that was still alive. I know that sounds weird. It's not so much grieving the physical child but, more like grieving the loss of
experiences, the sense of security that your child is ok, and "normalcy". Please don't take this as me not being grateful of how well Thomas is doing. He is progressing at an amazing rate and we are excited every day to watch him grow. It's just how this experience affected my husband and I.
Anyway, I found this podcast called Simply Transform with Jenn Benson to be super helpful. (Jenn is a Health and Wellness Coach in Georgia and has this awesome podcast along with other helpful resources. ) When I listened to it, a lightbulb went off and I connected with the message immediately. She interviewed Laura Jack, who is a Compassion Communication Coach, and it's brilliant. It struck such a chord with me that I have to share it. Please click the link below and enjoy!
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